lumenquill | Mourning Someone You Never Knew

CW: death, mourning

Recently, someone my friends and I follow online, whose work had a deep tie to our childhoods, posted that their wife had passed away.

We all were shocked and saddened by this event, and each of us had different things to say about the woman we never knew.

We found out she suffered from the same mental disorder as my roommate, and he offered sympathy for what she must have been going through on that front.

One friend related that she had lost relatives in the past few years, and connected to the situation that way.

I commented that said wife had the same name as an old teacher of mine, and I wondered how that teacher was doing.

It was fascinating how sympathy, grief, and respect for this family none of us knew brought us together in that moment. None of us replied to any of the posts though, as far as I know, for as much as we felt strongly about the circumstance we lacked words to explain those feelings.

Even now I kept it anonymous who this post is about, so not to make their own grieving about me.

I wish them well, though. If they ever find this blog and realize it's about them.